‘Dear John’ Letter Example
You came into my life and made it worth living. You put a smile on my face at a time in my life when all I could see was darkness. For the past two years, you have become my friend and confidant – you have treated me like the queen you saw me to be. You have given me a confidence I never thought I would have.
For the reasons above, I find it very difficult to do this and more so, to do this using a letter. I have never been good at expressing my feelings in person, so the easiest way to do this without causing any more hurt is to write this letter. I wouldn’t wish to have to look at your face once you read this; you know it has never been my wish to damage you in any way whatsoever.
At the start of our marriage, you and I were a beautiful and strong couple. You did things for me that no one ever has. All the numerous and spontaneous surprises kept the marriage interesting and lively. However, all this was a mask for the fundamental flaws that lay deep in our marriage. The past eight months have been a testament to this fact.
You and I are two completely different people now. We are fundamentally incompatible. We share contradicting and opposite opinions on most matters. Our beliefs in most values are different too. We are incompatible and I do not believe this is working.
I know it will hurt knowing the past two years have gone to waste. But kindly try to look at this from a positive perspective. I believe it is best to end this on a positive note and save ourselves from a lifetime of arguments, fights and misery. This does not mean that I do not care about you. As a matter of fact, I really care about you and love you. But I love you as a friend, and I believe that’s what we should have been – friends.
It is with great thought and consideration of the future that I have arrived at this decision. I know that you might wonder if I have any doubts about this decision. In all honesty, I am certain about this and I believe we should accept this as adults and begin the divorce process. It is my deepest wish that we complete it in the most amicable way possible. I have already informed my lawyer of my decision and I just wanted to inform you before I officially launch the divorce process.
I sincerely hope that you can move on and find someone who will make you happy – the wife you’ve always desired. I hope that my sincerity and transparency about my true feelings and thoughts do not cause you any more pain.
With my sincerest care and love,